The Love Jones...

here are females who need, want, love to be in relationship. Then…there are females like me…who need, want, and love to be single. Sometimes the two meet in the middle but that is when the confusion sets in.
The confusion of wanting a serious relationship but like the boundaries of a causal relationship better can have a female wondering which one is best for her. Basically a female wants her cake and eat it to…AND what is so wrong with that. At some point other factors come into play. Can you blame a chick? Guys do it all the time. Guys are able to jungle a couple of women while never committing to none of them but he treats each one like they are the one for him. So can you blame chick if she does the same?
All this relates to my situation now. I been talking to this dude since February, it all start when he came to visit me while I was working the night desk at my dorm, then it got a little serious because he came every night I worked. Summer break was approaching and since we lived in the same city, one would have thought that everything would continue once we got to Louisville. I would say that it was good the first couple of weeks but I started summer school and I was working part time so my mind was on that and not him. We drifted apart and I began hanging out with a old fling while he was spending time with his ex-girlfriend. Who would believe it that him and his ex would get back together…then she would become a freshman at our school. The semester began without any drama then him and his girl broke up so we picked up right were we left off. We actually were better than we were when the semester ended and things got REAL serious. The talked about becoming a couple, making it official and changing our status on facebook. (Sidebar: When did being exclusive on facebook the decision factor of a relationship…lol)
Now we are at the end of the Fall semester and we are in a causal relationship. Is a relationship at the end of the tunnel or just another causal fling? The decision is mine. A decision that I can not fully make on my own. Ladies…I know you have been here before.
You’re at a crossed road where you feel like you met a guy that you can truly be with but the other part of you is not really sure if this is the guy you want to be with. Yeah I know it sounds like I said the same thing but it has a totally different meaning.
I believe that he is a good guy. He has all the qualitities a female would want in a boyfriend but there are moments when I’m thinking “Are you serious? Did you just do that or say that?” Since he is younger I feel like there is so much he can learn before dating someone my age. Then again he knows how to handle (at times).
Females tend to be attracted to one type of guy and have list of qualities that one would want in a boyfriend but then you meet this guys and all that goes out the window. Sometimes it works out for the best then sometimes it works for the worse. Dating, love, and relationship are a learning process. It’s an experience that everyone has to go through but it one that is hard to go into if you been hurt before. Is there a time period that should be place on how long two people can talk before deciding to call it quits or making it official? Females really don’t have a “type” of guy they go after but we know what we like. Usually looks are at the top of that list…definitely if we look good (don’t want to be match up with someone UGLY… it’s the truth) but other qualities might be personality, swag, or relationship with God and parents. Depending on the female the characteristics can be a range from one extreme to the next.
You never want to hurt someone but at times you got to worry about your feelings over other people.